I was compelled to write my this blog after watching last nights episode of Single Ladies. Lisa Raye's character Keisha and DB Wood's character Malcolm have been "dating" and I use that word loosely. Both were intelligent, sexy, successful in their own right, but they were both "afraid" of giving in to the other. So for the last couple of weeks we've watched them both play games and do silly things all in the name of "self preservation". Each had their weapons drawn. Guns pointed at each other waiting on the other to make a move, but last night they both dropped their weapons and were open & honest with themselves and each other.
Let me explain "weapons drawn" it means using tactics to control a relationship mental, physical & emotional.
Lauryn Hill said it best "it could all be so simple, but you rather make it hard."
I have a tendency to always have my weapon drawn and if somebody does or says one thing I don't like I'm shooting first and asking questions later. I've developed this weapon strategy as a defense mechanism and honestly it works it keeps me from getting hurt but, it also keeps me from actually giving a person a chance.
I just wanna lay my weapons down I want to love without limits and trust someone without having my hand on my weapon.
I just wanna lay my weapon down. I want to appear in front of someone unarmed and open to all the possibilities of love.
I just wanna lay my weapon down and stop playing these silly relationship games.
Then I clam up.. Because I wanna lay my weapon down, but what about these men? They've got their weapons drawn too and I'm not bringing a knife to a gun fight so will I ever be able to lay my weapons down??????
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