For Colored Girls.... A Tyler Perry Movie & the Ntozake Shange book

I read this book when I was about 16 years old.  I saw it on my mothers book shelf and I became intrigued with the title and the woman with the black face on the cover.  She reminded me of someone I knew maybe my mother, maybe my aunt, maybe my cousins or maybe myself.  I picked that at book up and I read those words of the women all named after colors...  I tried to make sense of their inner turmoil... I tried to wonder what it would be like to have an abortion... I thought about having men come in and out of my bedroom... I tried to imagine having my kids thrown out the window by the man I loved...  I read that book over and over and I still couldn't make sense of it... I was so young and naive that I really didn't know what those words meant...  Abortion, hurt, pain, cheating men and just the everyday pain of being a Colored Girl...  Now at 29 years young those words they were speaking are my words, words of my friends and family members.  Now I know what the lady in green meant when she said "somebody tried to take all of my stuff somebody tried to take me and tried to leave a simple bitch in my place." Now I know what it feels like to have sorry greeting you at the door and so many sorry's your closet you can't even get to your clothes."

Last night I went to see the movie with my sisters and step-mothers they were delighted, but I was skeptical for two reasons one being it was a Tyler Perry movie and everybody knows this Diva Doll ain't no Tyler Perry fan.  Two how to you bring such a dramatic chorepoem to the big screen? When the movie first started I was rolling my eyes and forming opinions, but not even ten minutes into it I remember being 16 years old sitting on the back of my father's Ford pick-up truck reading about these colored women and not just black in color, but every color of the rainbow.  I remembered loving someone who didn't love me back, I remember thinking I could make somebody love me because of what was in between my thighs and here it was for me people who look like me and sound like me going threw problems that I've been through or that I know someone who is going threw.  Kerry Washington, Anika Noni Rose, Phylisia Rashad, Whoppi Goldberg, Thandie Newton, Kimberly Elise, Loretta Devine and Tessa Thompson were all awesome, but I have to give Janet Jackson special praise for her portrayal of the lady in red "Jo" she was so believable and when she delivered Ntozake's poem "Sorry" I had chills all over my body and tears running down my face.  I felt what she was talking about it was so real... Not her exact situation, but the fact that we've all been tired of hearing I'm sorry!

I urge all women to go see this women and not just women of color, but women.  We have to be empowered, we have to make sure that nobody walks out with our stuff under their arm in a plastic bag.

I'm just saying Volume 1

The I'm just saying Volumes are complied of my random thoughts.......

Was I not supposed to notice the little bag of chips is now a tiny mouthful of chips with more air?

Remember when you had to wrestle that first pickle out of the jar? Not anymore! There's plenty of room now, before you pop the lid.


Exactly how many taxes and surcharges can a company charge you for? Wikipedia says a surcharge is an extra fee added onto another fee or charge.

Can anybody tell me why some folks are STILL debating my president’s birth certificate? SMH


Is anyone else wondering why “Reality TV” is called that? Whose reality is it? If that’s reality then why am I not having an ideal life? What’s the in-between called? Maybe that's where I am


Why is that some women love to wear clothes that don't fit?Just because it comes in your size doesn't mean you should wear it


Why do people think technical help people are like Gods who see and know all? “My computer has an error……(insert crickets here)” or “Something is wrong with this machine….(more crickets). Remember the slogan, “Be kind, rewind”? I think the tech help slogan should be, “be specific or we won’t fix it”

If your kids can't decipher who's their real uncles from the fake uncles you've got a problem

#imjustsaying

Quote of the day...

"Wait for the BEST thing not the next thing..."

How many of us are guilty of jumping straight out the frying pan into the fire? I know I can raise my hand to that one ... Its like hailing a cab on a busy New York street during rush hour you don't know what type of cab you're gonna get.. It could the smelly arabic man or the non english speaking african and you're sitting in the back of the cab thinking "why did I have to be in such a fucking rush?"
Often times we are so pressed to be with somebody we will get with the next "anybody" that comes along and there we are thinking "what was I thinking?" We rush into things prematurely without waiting and weighing our options to make sure our next choice is the best choice.
This quote says to me wait for the best thing, that which God has designed for you.. It may not come when you want it, but its always on time!
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K-Ci & JoJo Come Clean... Episode 2

On this week's episode of K-Ci and JoJo come clean a reality show about former Jodeci band members brothers K-Ci and Jojo allow cameras to follow them for 30 days as they make an attempt to get "clean."  Rev. Dr. Jamal Bryant who acts as K-Ci and JoJo's spiritual advisor during this process in attempt to help K-Ci & JoJo bring closures to issues that act as triggers for the two brothers Dr. Bryant brings in the brothers children AND the mothers of those children to spend time with them and mend broken fences created by addiction.  While you would think they both would be happy to see their children especially when the children are supporting them in this road to  recovery.  But, K-Ci wasn't.... K-Ci didn't even know who his 18 year old son Devin was (he hadn't seen him in 10 or more years) and he says "I want to see my son on my terms" while I understand he may have been a little embarrassed, but what better time to see your son and try to make amends???  He was there reaching out to his father while supporting him.. That speaks volumes to me Devin was there to support someone who hadn't been there to support him...

Its funny how men stay away from their children for years and years I couldn't imagine being away from my two daughters for any extended period of time.  I would worry myself sick thinking about them... Worrying if they were healthy, fed or if they were being treated right... Its funny to me how men are able to disconnect from their children these little people who act like you, look like you, adore you and most importantly love you... 
K-Ci's son was surprisingly open to this reunion and moving on with their relationship, but it doesn't always work like that.. Often times children are bitter and hurt because Dad left and it affects their lives tremendously....http://kciandjojo.tvoneonline.com/
http://video.aol.com/aolvideo/aol-black-voices/my-kids-my-choice-k-ci-and-jo-jo/650005395001